Are you really forgiving your partner if you still end the relationship? Are you not still bitter and terminating the relationship because you cannot forgive the betrayal of your trust? I believe forgiveness in totality is true forgiveness; forgive+ forget. I am also guilty of practicing partial forgiveness, we often forget that forgiveness is a complete package and is made up of two elements. Really keen on hearing your opinions.
I always tell women who stick it out with the "bad boy" because - "no one knows him like I do", "he is a good person deep inside", "I think he can change" - that it's great to counsel people but that doesn't mean you're supposed to invite that person into your bed. Forgiveness is for you because it allows you to stop feeling anger and resentment toward that person. So you can totally forgive him for cheating but if cheating is a no, no for you then IT'S YOUR EVERY RIGHT AND RESPONSIBILITY to change the dynamics of the relationship even if it means keeping that person at a distance. As women, we really need to own our beds and bodies and be overly selective of who we allow in that space. Don't let anyone fool you into thinking that "if you really loved me or forgave me you would let me back in your bed". That's BS. You can forgive, you can even forget, but always have boundaries with your bed and body. You are responsible for you and you owe it to yourself to have a healthy heart and mind and anyone that degrades that peace, according to your rules and boundaries, does not need to be in your intimate space!
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