Moral of the Story: How he treats her is how he will treat you.
Oh boy! So a few things come to mind…
Side chicks never prosper.
How you start is how you finish.
What he did to her he will do to you.
This is too messy to ever be clean.
Is it possible that he is a great guy and this is just one of life’s many complications? Of course, but with that being said, depending on the circumstances, I wouldn’t be anyone’s side chick for less than two weeks (hear me out!) or for more than six weeks for these two reasons:
1) I would be concerned if today, I became the side chick, and tomorrow, he broke up with his girlfriend, because that demonstrates someone who makes rash decisions. Although, it might sound romantic, trust me when I say he will turn around and do the same to you when the next old (or new) flame comes around. You want someone grounded enough to think of the short and long term consequences of his actions and not someone who gets lost in fantasy and fleeting romances. A responsible man in a relationship should have some connection to his woman even if she is not the ‘love of his life’. So if it’s that easy for him to walk away and he has no remorse then run honey, run. When it comes to men, it’s all about their character. Their character is their foundation from which all their actions originate.
2) On the other hand, even if the two of you are keeping things strictly platonic (which you should be!!), he is still technically, emotionally cheating so I would be very leery of a man that could carry on an emotional, romantic relationship with two women at the same time. Just remember that every time he is not texting you, he is texting her. When he is not with you, he is with her. That means when he is with her, he is lying to himself. When he is with you, he is lying to her.
Each day that goes by is unfair to everybody. If he cares about anyone other than himself then this should all be agonizing for him. Who would be comfortable living like this for an extensive period of time? A lying, cheating dog. That’s who. So if he doesn’t come to you with a 2 to 6 week action plan to end this side chick business then run for the hills because a good man isn’t afraid to answer, “Who’s it gonna be?”
I do know several couples who have been together for years who started out in situations similar to this. The guys who dragged out the situation for months or even years ended up being men who were simply two-timers. The ones who were respectful and quick to wrap things up were the ones who put a ring on it.
Ultimately, how he treats her in the process is a sign of how he will treat you in the future. He should respect you enough to not be physical with you at all while he is still in a relationship with another woman. He should also respect her enough to not continue to emotionally cheat on her because no matter how much he loooves you and believes you are the one, she is still currently his g/f. Trust me, you want a guy that has a general baseline of respect for everyone because that baseline will be the foundation of how he treats you in the future!
I do love a modern day love story so keep me posted!
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